The holiday season is a time of celebration, friends, family, and fun for most Australians. But for many, it’s also a time of year when they feel isolated and alone.
People experience loneliness when they lack a sense of connection with others. It can feel like a sense of isolation, and other times it just feels like no-one is listening. Loneliness can be caused by mental, emotional, and physical factors, and it can happen even when you’re surrounded by other people.
Loneliness is now a growing global concern. In Australia, almost one in four households has a lone person dwelling in it. More than one in three young adults aged 18-25 report problematic levels of loneliness and almost 20% of people over the age of 75 feel the same way.
Men tend to report higher levels of loneliness than women, with 39% of men living alone experiencing loneliness. One in three men believe that there is no-one to help them out if in they’re in need. Half of the Australian male population think that they have many acquaintances but not as many real friends as they would like and 37% of men are not satisfied with the quality of their relationships.
This level of physical isolation can impact wellbeing and exacerbate loneliness. It can be especially challenging for those who live alone or far from family.
The truth about feeling lonely
Loneliness is common, with one in four Australian adults feeling lonely.
Irene Verins, Manager, Mental Wellbeing at VicHealth, says, “Feeling lonely now and then is normal, but can become a bigger problem when it’s unaddressed.”
“Loneliness can lead to people experiencing cycles of social isolation, anxiety, and depression. It’s also really hard to talk about, and people often don’t comfortable discussing it with their friends or family.”
Taking steps to reconnect
Ms Verins has advice for people seeking to feel less lonely. “Set realistic expectations around your social life, as it’s natural for friendships to ebb and flow. It’s possible to take steps on your own to manage how you feel, but many people find it beneficial to work through their loneliness with a professional therapist”
People experiencing loneliness can make small changes to reconnect and establish the social contact they’re seeking:
- Start with a simple text, call, or email to get conversations going
- Accept invitations, and consider hosting friends and family. It doesn’t need to be a big event — you can catch up with a friend one-on-one, or meet up for a morning coffee
- Offer — and accept — help. If you’ve got some tools or a ladder in the shed, offer to assist loved ones with their Christmas lights
- If there’s one season where you can reach out and ask for help — this is it. For example, if you don’t drive, invite a friend who does to come to a Christmas event with you
- Reconnect with yourself and plan your alone time to do things you love. It’s important to have a good time by yourself, so go and see that movie or read that book that everyone’s been talking about
- Look into joining an organisation like Men’s Shed — it’s an easy way to connect with people in the neighbourhood
- Get out there. Exercising in groups and volunteering can do wonders for your mental health
- Online ‘lived experience’ and ‘carer’ forums, run by SANE Australia, operate over the holiday period and are a great way to connect and get advice
- Other online and telephone services such as Beyond Blue and MensLine are available if you need some extra support or a compassionate person to chat to.
It’s important to remember that loneliness is common and normal — you’re not alone! And just a single positive step can help you to reconnect with people around you.